Hi, I’m Brian D. Stubbs.. My bio may cause some triggers and others freedom…

I’m living my life twelve years now in “recovery” from a crappy childhood. In a little bit I will share the details of this statement “shifting” from being a victim to a survivor to a thriver of life today – that shift being a decision to evolve myself…

I was born unwanted from two teenage parents. Survived a horrific childhood consisting of nine years of sexual abuse via an Uncle – The abuse led me to run and hide from life in any mind altering substance from ages twelve-thirty five. The sexual abuse also developed, or caused my life long mental illness.

I started my recovery journey through marriage counseling in 2003 with my then first wife. ADHD, depression and (severe) anxiety were diagnosed then. I had been denying anxiety/panic attacks/self medicating/suicidal ideation since about 1985 – I had my first psychotic breakdown and arrest at age 19, in 1989 while in Trade School, I somehow graduated!

I struggled, life was severe and challenging up until June 2005. This is my sobriety date and also my second arrest – I was sober about seven days when I was arrested – being severely psychotic – I went through treatment court for three years, at six days a week learning to positively handle life, while unlearning the toxicity of my childhood.

I (still) struggled with the severity of my mental illness for the first five years of recovery. It was rough for me, medicines and vitamin changes, 1:1, group counseling, and all forms of support groups – while still making some bad decisions! That’s: 2003-2008 – In December 2008, I gained insight observing and “grilling” others who had something I yearned for – I made a life decision to focus on solutions to my problems, and not the misery I had become custom to – I desired to learn how to be happy and content. It happened about twelve-thirteen months later, I evolved via an all out action plan to change for the better. And everyday since then I possess the ability to be happy via positive stress management and positive coping ways, or habits and hobbies. Most days, I do manage all my aliments of body and brain.

Recall December 2008 – I’ve permanently shifted from focusing solely on my recovery to “giving what I got” back to help others whom also live with similar life experiences. My experience of being “down in a hole” is the main reason why I’m sharing my story with you now.

In 2009 – I created an idea (it was a dream!) to advocate and educate regarding being able to manage mental illness and chronic pain – In 2014, that dream became reality, along with the ability to earn a living writing and speaking – Decide 2 Evolve became a writing and speaking agency beyond Cumberland, Dauphin, and Perry counties in Pennsylvania. At present – I am becoming a published author of a series of survival guides, all based off thirty years of journal entries. I speak at community events, and numerous colleges (in Pa) educating my future, in the classroom, offering them real life exposure to the evidence that some people with mental illness do indeed live good lives, managing it…

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